Sensation Seeking Scale (My results) (designed by Professor Marvin Zuckerman of the University of Delaware.)

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Thrill and adventure seeking - you score 5 out of 10

This consists of items expressing desires to engage in sports or activities involving some physical danger or risk such as mountain climbing, parachute jumping, scuba diving, speeding in a car, etc.

Experience seeking - you score 7 out of 10

This descibes the desire to seek new experiences through the mind and senses by living in a nonconforming life style with unconventional friends, and through travel.

Disinhibition - you score 6 out of 10

This describes the need to disinhibit behaviour in the social sphere by drinking, partying and seeking variety in sexual partners.

Boredom susceptibility - you score 3 out of 10

This indicates an aversion for repetitive experience of any kind, routine work, or even dull or predictable people. Other items indicate a restless reaction when things are unchanging.

Your total sensation seeking score is 21 out of 40

More on sensation seeking

Sensation seeking is a personality trait expressed in behaviour as a tendency to seek varied, novel, complex and intense sensations and experiences and to take physical risks for the sake of having such experiences.
These experiences could take the form of extreme adventure activities such as skydiving, snowboarding and mountain climbing. But the trait can also express itself in high drug, alcohol or tobacco use.
Men generally score higher than women on the total score and on all the subscales except Experience Seeking. Sensation Seeking Scale scores increase during childhood, peak in the late teens or early twenties, and thereafter decrease steadily with age.
People with similar scores on the Sensation Seeking Scale also tend to be more romantically compatible with each other.
Divorced males score higher than single and married males, and divorced and single females score higher than married females

My results for a "Careers Test" (developed by psychometric specialist Neil Scott of Cassin-Scott Associates.)

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Results

This questionnaire is designed to get you thinking about the sort of jobs that might suit your style.
John Holland's model of vocational choice suggests that people with particular interests and styles tend to favour certain types of jobs. Holland described six main types of person:

• Realistic
• Conventional
• Social
• Enterprising
• Artistic
• Investigative

Knowing the types you most (and least) fit can help you think about the types of role that may suit you.
Read below to find out what careers you seem to be suited to based on your results in the test:

Investigative

Your results suggest that Investigative type work might suit your interests and preferences.
Investigative types prefer thinking to action, they like working with information and may prefer working with ideas rather than with people. They tend to like jobs in which they can research, analyse and solve problems (or come up with new problems!) and prefer using their brains to their interpersonal skills. Typical roles that suit Investigative types are
scientist, 
computer programmer,
engineer,
laboratory worker,
pharmacist and vet.

Artistic

Your results suggest that Artistic type work is less likely to suit your interests.
Artistic types are interested in creativity and art, preferring freedom and independence to following rules and procedures. Self-expression is very important to Artistic types and they may prefer to work alone. Typical roles for Artistic types include artist, singer, designer, photographer, musician, writer and actor.

Social

Your results suggest that Social type work is less likely to suit your interests.
Social types like roles that focus on helping, teaching or supporting others and very much prefer working with people to working with things or ideas. They tend to prefer working in teams and like to feel they are doing something useful. Typical roles for social types include teacher, counsellor, nurse, minister of religion, clinical psychologist or police officer.

Realistic

Your results suggest that Realistic type work is less likely to suit your interests.
Realistic types generally prefer action to words, they like physical activity and may prefer working with things to working with people. They tend to favour jobs where they can work with their hands or produce things, and often like outdoor work. Typical roles that suit Realistic types are gardener, mechanic, driver, electrician, farmer, sportsperson, skilled trades, labourers and some engineering and military roles.


This brief questionnaire can't tell you exactly what you should do. It only suggests work areas to think about that may match the way you like to work but it can't tell you whether you have the skills and qualifications for these jobs.
To take things further you should consult your local careers service or your local library. Use the right-hand navigation bars at the top of this page to find links to other careers sites

Test - Artists vs Thinkers , ISFP vs INTP

So I compared 2 of my blogs -
one was created when I was IN LOVE - more emotional, inspired, creative. www.typealyzer.com identified me as "ISFP - The Artists"
The second blog was more about who am I, confusion, thinking. www.typealyzer.com identified me as "INTP - The Thinkers"


ISFP
INTP

In both cases I'm I and P.
F and T change is explained- feeling of love makes me inspired, romantic, "flying in clouds"

S and N change (iNtuition vs sensing)
And it looks that being in love makes me more Intuitive also.
According to this post: Sensing vs. Intuiting

Sensors pay attention to both immediate data from their five senses and from their own direct experiences. They are create meaning from conscious thought, rather than trusting their subconscious, limiting their attention to facts and solid data. As necessary, they will happily dig into the fine detail of the situation.
They focus on what is immediate, practical and real, and live life as it is rather than trying to change the world.
They like logic and tend to pursue things in a clear sequence. At work, they will have a clear schedule and like to use their proven skills in tactical situations.
They may be seen as frivolous or short-sighted by Intuitors.
Intuiting

Intuitors process data more deeply than sensors and are happy to trust their subconscious and 'sixth sense', gut feel, intuition or whatever you want to call it.
They are good at spotting patterns and taking a high-level view, as opposed to digging into the detail.
They like ideas and inspiration and tend to have a focus on the future, where they will plan to change the world rather than continue to live in the imperfect present.
At work, they like to acquire new skills and working at the strategic level.
They may be seen as impractical, theoretical and lacking determination by Sensors.




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The analysis indicates that the author of http://alettertomylovelylove.blogspot.com/ is of the type:
ISFP - The Artists
[ISFP]
The gentle and compassionate type. They are especially attuned their inner values and what other people need. They are not friends of many words and tend to take the worries of the world on their shoulders. They tend to follow the path of least resistance and have to look out not to be taken advantage of.

They often prefer working quietly, behind the scene as a part of a team. They tend to value their friends and family above what they do for a living.
Analysis
This graph displays dominant parts during the writing
A Letter To My Love skip to main | skip to sidebar A Letter To My Love Thursday, 23 September 2010 A letter to my love I dream about us. I dream about flying, dreaming , jumping, spinning, swimming under the shining sun , under the blue sky. No one around , just you and me on the ground Just you and me on the sand On this land The sky is blue the water is clear this day me and you and no one is near Posted by DREAMer at 19:37 1 comments Email This BlogThis! Share to Twitter Share to Facebook Home Subscribe to: Posts (Atom) Subscribe To Posts Atom Posts All Comments Atom All Comments Followers Blog Archive ▼ 2010 (1) ▼ September (1) A letter to my love

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The analysis indicates that the author of http://insearchoftrueme.blogspot.com/ is of the type:
INTP - The Thinkers
[INTP]
The logical and analytical type. They are especially attuned to difficult creative and intellectual challenges and always look for something more complex to dig into. They are great at finding subtle connections between things and imagine far-reaching implications.

They enjoy working with complex things using a lot of concepts and imaginative models of reality. Since they are not very good at seeing and understanding the needs of other people, they might come across as arrogant, impatient and insensitive to people that need some time to understand what they are talking about.
Analysis
This graph displays dominant parts during the writing
In Search Of True Me - the dark, secret side skip to main | skip to sidebar In Search Of True Me - the dark, secret side In Search Of True Me... Fish - Watch how they eagerly swim toward your mouse hoping that you’ll drop a few flakes of food. Friday, 12 March 2010 Waste Bin Actually writing this makes me feel kind of good, as I'm expressing myself. But I wouldn't reccomend reading this posts to anyone. As they are depressing... I associate this blog with a waste bin. The dark background represents the darkest secrets of MY OWN MIND... I don't want to keep them inside, I want to get rid of them, throw them in a dark colours of this blog. Posted by DREAMer at 06:19 0 comments Who am I suppose to be in this life? Who am I suppose to be in this life? Is being an actor - is a solution to my question (problem)? If I'm lying to myself, so what am I trying to gain from that? Self questioning helps. It does help a lot. But it came up to my mind only when I wanted to write an e-mail to my friend. So back to acting. Actor- is a person who impersonates other people, who lives somebody else's life, pretends to be somebody. But Is it "OK" to feel the feelings of "that" person? Posted by DREAMer at 06:18 0 comments The beginning of the day might seem a bit different from the end of the day... Different emotions, different feelings to different people. In search of love and warmth from someone In search of myself... Asking myself lots and lots of questions, confusion, desperation, disappointment- it all gets together in my head... Posted by DREAMer at 06:17 0 comments Home Subscribe to: Posts (Atom) Share it Followers Blog Archive ▼ 2010 (3) ▼ March (3) Waste Bin Who am I suppose to be in this life? The beginning of the day might seem a bit differen...


CAREER CHOICE:
Possible Career Paths for the INTP:
http://www.personalitypage.com/html/INTP_car.html

Scientists - especially Physics, Chemistry
Mathematicians
Computer Programmers, Systems Analysts, Computer Animation and Computer Specialists
Technical Writers
Engineers
Lawyers / Attorneys
Forensic Research
Photographers
Strategic Planners
University Professors
Judges

Possible Career Paths for the ISFP:
http://www.personalitypage.com/html/ISFP_car.html
Artist
Musician / Composer
Designer
Psychologist


I would prefer to be more ISTJ type http://www.personalitypage.com/html/ISTJ_car.html
Possible Career Paths for the ISTJ:

Business Executives, Administrators and Managers
Accountants and Financial Officers
Police and Detectives
Judges
Lawyers
Medical Doctors / Dentists
Computer Programmers, Systems Analysts, and Computer Specialists
Military Leaders

So my receipt to become ISTJ would be :
change P to J,
a bit of l"s" from love state

Regardless of the test saying (in both cases) that I'm a "P" type, I do like to make lists.
But I'm definitely a type "P" most of the time. This has been proved in university - I hated deadlines.

Judgment or Perception (J/P)
Myers claimed that she confined her usage of the word "judgment" (J) to mean "coming to a conclusion," but again and again she used "judgment" to describe people who make and keep schedules in their daily lives. Myers also used the word "perception" (P) to describe people who prefer to probe for options and thus not be tied to a schedule.

In other words, Schedulers are judicious about schedules, Probers perceptive of options. Schedulers make agendas, timetables, programs, lists, syllabi, calendars, outlines, registers, and so on, for themselves and others to follow; Probers keep their eyes open for chances to do things they want to, for opportunities and alternatives they might avail themselves of. Each orientation has problems. By committing themselves to a set agenda, Schedulers tend to stop looking for alternatives and options and so may never know what they're missing. By keeping their options open Probers are reluctant to commit themselves to schedules and so are inclined to miss deadlines and leave tasks unfinished.

This difference extends to the physical environment as well. Schedulers tend to be neat and orderly. They like their desk at work to be tidy, and their house picked up -- dishes done, bed made, car washed, and so on. Not that they always manage all of these chores, but they are unhappy when their personal space is a mess, and straightening things up is often near the top of their list. Probers, in contrast, have a much greater tolerance for disorder in their physical environment. They seem absorbed in whatever they're doing or thinking about at the moment, and are somewhat oblivious to the details of housekeeping. And so their personal spaces -- office, house, garage, car -- are often cluttered with a variety of objects they have picked up, used, and then dropped when they have finished with them.
(my note: in terms of physical space - Im so much a PROBE "P" type. I sort out stuff in my room only when I'm finally fed up and can't find anything, I'll have guests at my house- and I'll be embarrased if they see the mess, or when I begin a learning process in my room and I feel that I HAVE to clean the room before I proceed to studies. I consider the cleaning process something not worth my time: there are much more important/interesting thinkgs needs to be done, like learning, thinking , creating ect. I guess in future I will hire a housekeeper who will be sorting out all my stuff while I'm thinking about great ideas and important things :).
2 of my flat mates are sorting out their rooms almost every day, or at least once a week and I find that interesting)

2 sealed envelopes - Napoleon Hill - list of blessings - Carnegie - Your idea of success

http://youtu.be/2hA-7aq6OXI

1) The riches you may enjoy if you take  possession of your own  mind and direct into ends of your own choice
1. Sound health
2. Peace of mind
3. The labour of love of your own choice
4. Freedom from fear and worry
5. Positive mental attitude
6. Material riches of your own choice and quantity

2) The penalties you must pay if you neglect to take possession of your mind and direct it
1. ill health
2.fear and worry
3.indecision and doubt
4. frustration and discouragement throughout life
5. poverty and ......
6.and the whole flock of evils consisting of the envy, ..., jealousy , anger, hatred and superstition

Female, Leader, Boss, Success. Family, Happiness

Mexico, cancun

http://dreamdays.com/omni-cancun/index.asp

While in mexico - to visit Carlos and his family.
To see his brother , discover the history of Mayan calendar and enjoy the beauty of his country.

http://www.travelerminds.com/hotels/aqua-cancun/

http://www.photosot.com/flamingo-cancun-beach-white-gazebo/

http://www.le-caribbean-islands.com/cancun-resorts.html

To visit :

Mayan Ruins

Tulum The smallest Mayan ruin site among the big three, Tulum only needs a day. These ruins overlook the ocean and are right on a beautiful beach. This is a perfect spot for a picnic, a short swim and sun bathing. Don't forget your camera!

Coba Wear comfortable clothing and shoes and prepare for an hour and a half drive into the jungle before reaching these ruins. Well worth the drive as there are beautiful temples and pyramids to see.



Chichen Itza
This is the most famous and grandiose pyramid of them all. Bring plenty of film and enjoy the beautifully kept grounds and the new restoration work on the pyramid. A must see Mayan ruin for culture enthusiasts. There are also restaurants, a small museum, and tourist shops on the site. Plan for a day excursion. 

Romance

I'm feeling very romantic today :)

Love - evoL , The mesmerising world of music - cisum fo dlrow gnisiremsem ehT

Love for music...

"cisum fo dlrow gnisiremsem ehT"

I've never experienced such a feeling before.
I realised it only when I felf that noone loves me. so I found something to looooooove.
Rhythms, sounds, beats are my new love.
Every single beat makes this love grow.

24th of May2011 - it all happened on that day. That day changed my life. That day changed the day of 1st of May turned out for me. on that same day of 1st of May I realised that there is something more in the music, it not only makes us happy, it mesmerises us, it's hypnotising, it's addictive.
It takes us into another dimention, away from this world, somewhere where I haven't been before, to the .....It takes my mind onto a journey, exploration of myself, of my world.
But the main point is that it fills in that emptiness inside me ...............
Gives sence to my life. Relationships come and go, leaving bitter tasting memoried behind . but music stays there with me, forever and ever. It'll never leave me. It'll always be with me, now and forever....

100 things to do before I'm 30 :)

To attend live concerts:

Madonna? (If any)
Riverdance, The Show, Israel , 1-12 September2011
The Prodigy - Andalucia, Spain 13 Aug2011

The Pierley/Redford Dissociative Affect Diagnosis

 Take the test here
My diagnosis (doesn't seem to be correct for me :))

Quiet and very self-assured, you tend to keep your own council. Pragmatic and practical to a fault, you are not one to worry about the finer points of philosophical discourse. In fact, because you are very much an individualist, you often finds yourself at odds with the established truth or the wishes of the majority. You will often earn the wrath of an employer by taking upon yourself decisions which are rightly those of your manager. You are not one to take credit unless it is deserved. Similarly however, you will also not happily give credit where it is not due. In a romantic relationship you can be very frustrating. While you do care deeply and sincerely, and are willing to work at a relationship, your confidence in your own abilities can on occasion make it difficult to see the world from a partner’s point of view. Quiet and stoic at times, you can drive a more emotional individual completely up the wall. You can become overstressed and fatigued without knowing it. Taking time to rest between bouts of hard work can help to prevent a breakdown later on.

After taking this test 2nd time - the results were different (I was making very quick decisions this time):
Often concerned with right and wrong, and punctilious in expressing it, you are best represented by the Customs Agent or the IRS inspector. Initially seen by others as cold or uncaring, you are difficult for those more spontaneous members of society to understand. You are extremely stable, responsible and dependable. You manifest an amazing ability to concentrate on the issue at hand, and are difficult to distract from issues that are important. You manifest a great sense of loyalty to your employers and your government. You tend to show love through a display of committed works, believing that actions speak louder than words. You are also resistant to change and tend to believe that the old ways are best. If a behavior has been successful in the past, why would anyone want to change? You work best in a controlled environment.


Some interesting comments about this test here
http://www.metafilter.com/102263/Which-of-shape-is-insane-The-PierlyRedford-Dissociative-Affect-Diagnostic     and here
http://community.theintentionexperiment.com/index.php?do=/Filipino_Monkey/blog/the-pierley-redford-dissociative-affect-diagnosis/
This test doesn't seem to be backed up by any research etc.

Here is the soursecode http://pastebin.com/uxAFw9V2

My Biorhythmic chart for 2011

Click here to get the same chart

How To Be Assertive

How To Be Assertive

1.Stand up for yourself

1.       confront the issue

-show empathy for the other person’s feelings

-describe your unhappiness

-explain what you want to see change

2.  Do’s and Don’ts

 -don’t lose your temper

-don’t make judgements (about other person  ex. look , hair etc)

DO Stand up tall and maintain eye contact

-DO Use “I” statements

-DO Own your feelings

3.Stay on track

   -consider new information and re-evaluate

   

4.Just say “NO”

- say NO to unreasonable requests

-repeat the request

-explain why you said “no”

   Ex. It completes me

Be true to yourself

State what YOU WANT

GET  what you WANT

GET what you need

Smile , compassion, form of love

Dare to shine!

Look your best

Visualise your success

Feel comfortable

Don’t assume others are mind readers 

Project Assertiveness With Your Posture

Learn to ask for what you need and desire in a mindful, positive manner. Here's where you use your feminine powers! First, make a brief compliment. Then, ask for a single change. Finally, thank your partner! If you use this model in small increments, he'll get trained and you'll get what you want. This kind of communication will help you get ahead in all areas of your life, including the bedroom.

Direct eye contact (soft gaze)- can be broken with horizontal glances away,

Face- nodding (yes, I hear you) , smiling, smiling with your eyes,   focusing,  do NOT break eye contact,

 straight posture ,  look confident , happy , peaceful, very passionate

restrained hands , when touching occurs , be gentle and express empathy.

Effective Study Motivation Tips

Effective Study Motivation Tips :

Get yourself to pick that book up now!  Useful Study Motivation Tips

Finding it hard to get study motivation? Have a big test coming up but just not motivated to study? Fallen back on your classes but still not able to get yourself to pick up the books?

Well you’re not the only one feeling this way. Whether you are currently a student studying in school or an adult picking up new knowledge, all of us have experienced lack of motivation to study. This is especially so when the subject you’re studying interests you as much as watching paint dry!

Fortunately, with will power, determination and some simple tips & techniques, anyone can turn their dislike into study motivation.

Studying can be fun, interesting and exciting. Never label studying as “boring”, “painful” or “uncomfortable”. That way you’ll be pre-framing yourself negatively even before you start. You’d have lost the battle before it even began. In fact, don’t even call it a battle. Studying is a meaningful journey of discovery.

1. Be Curious – get interested in the subject you’re studying

When you’re interested in the subject you’re studying, things become so much easier. You’ll be naturally motivated to learn and read about it. So how do we become interested in what we’re studying? We adopt a curious attitude. As long as you’re curious enough, anything can be interesting.

Question it, use your imagination, get inside the subject, understand what makes it tick, find out how you can apply it in life, read real life case studies. There are many ways to make a subject interesting when you adopt a curious mindset.

2. Set a schedule and study at the right time

Set a study schedule everyday. It’s good to plan your day in advance. Set a specific time for studying, and a time for playing or relaxing. This way, you won’t worry about ‘missing’ your fun. You may be studying hard now, but you know that later on you’ll be enjoying yourself. So this keeps you focused on studying in the present.

Here’s a tip : When planning your day, it’s always good to study first. If you think you should watch some TV or relax a little first before ‘getting down to it’, you’re making a big mistake. Doing that will only make it harder for you to start studying. The first step is always the hardest.

Also when setting study schedules, schedule your studying time at the time of the day where there will be the least distractions. Also choose the time when you’re at your peak state to study. This means obviously not studying after heavy meals (where digestion will make you sleepy) and times where you’ll be tired (ie. late nights)

3. Get started – 5 minute challenge

The hardest part of doing anything is getting started. The first step is always the toughest. After you got that out of the way, it’s all downhill. This is because once you’ve got momentum; it’s easy to keep it going. So it’s vital that you get yourself going in the first place.

This study motivation tip can help you get started. This is what you can do, whenever you’re not motivated to start studying, just plan to study for 5 minutes. That’s it, just 5 minutes. Tell yourself that you’ll be studying seriously for 5 minutes then you’ll stop.

Usually, what happens is after the 5 minutes are up, you would have been well into the swing of things that you’ll want to continue studying longer. Yeah that’s right. It’s quite a cool way to ‘trick’ ourselves. The key here is to make sure that for those 5 minutes you are really studying 100%. Not dreaming or getting distracted by other stuff.

   4. Stop/start at the fun part

When having to stop for breaks, meals or other activities, plan to stop when you’re at a fun part of the subject. The parts that are more interesting and enjoyable to you. This way, when you continue to study later, it’ll be much easier to get started because you’ll be starting at the fun parts.

    5. Remove distractions from your surroundings

Obviously this is very important for your study motivation. When you got the TV, phone, computer, bed, magazines etc nearby, you’ll be easily tempted to throw your books aside. Try to remove as many distractions away from you as possible.

You don’t need strand yourself on an island with only your books. Just make sure that any of these distractions are not near you.

When the remote is right next to you, you’re more likely to pick it up. Same with your phone, laptop etc. But if you have to walk all the way across to another part of the house to watch TV chances are you’ll be less likely to do it.

    6. Set a study area – make it as conducive as possible

The environment can play a big part in your study motivation. Imagine studying in a dimly lit, hot and stuffy room with loud music on playing in the corner. Or, in a quiet room, bright, with the right temperature and good air ventilation. Which room would make you feel more motivated to study?

If possible, have a regular study area. Make sure it’s conducive like being well lit, has ventilation, quiet and so on. Place all your notebooks, stationary, reference books in your study area. Make your study area as conducive to studying as possible.

7. Put yourself in a strong motivated state

Take 5 minutes before you start studying to put yourself into the proper state. Turn off any music, sit down, clear your mind and take deep breaths. Say a prayer or do some visualizations and light meditation. Visualize yourself happily studying and clearly understanding what you have learned.

Other methods include pumping yourself up by saying encouraging words and making a fist, and also by using NLP techniques such as anchoring and submodalities.

8. Set Goals  Setting goals will give you more motivation. When there’s a target to aim at, we’ll be more determined rise up to the challenge and push ourselves to achieve it. The sense of satisfaction from the achievement is also a good confidence booster. And it will cultivate a studying habit.                                                     Set goals such as how many sections/chapters you plan to cover within a period of time, grades to score in tests and others.

9. Reward yourself   Finally remember to reward yourself for the job well done. If you’ve stuck to your schedule, didn’t let yourself get distracted and successfully achieved the goals you set out, you deserve a reward for that.                                                            Reward yourself immediately. It doesn’t even need to be anything major, just simple things like enjoying an ice-cream sundae, watching your favorite TV show or calling friends up to chat. Of course, also give yourself big rewards whenever you have major achievements.

Final thoughts… Remember, the toughest part in studying is to get started. As long as you are determined and push yourself to pick up the book, half the battle is already won. With willpower, determination and using the study motivation tips above, getting study motivation shouldn’t be a problem anymore!

9 Mind Tricks to Get What You Want - Impress others subconsciously

1. To seem like a team player at work ...
Put up a picture of your dog (or even a friend’s pup) in your workspace. When people
look at shots of a pet dog, they not only tend to presume you’re loyal, but they may also
act more loyal toward you. But don’t paper your cube with canines. Research shows that
too many personal shots make others perceive you as a less professional worker.

2. To appear more powerful in the office hierarchy ...
Wear a chic all-black outfit to work, and don’t smile as often as you’re inclined. You’ll be
seen as assertive and directed. Studies have found that people in black uniforms (like
sports teams) are viewed as more dominant figures, while the act of keeping a neutral
face is associated with higher status and power in a work environment.

3. To bond with the boss ...
Offer to get her a hot cup of coffee — even if you’re not her assistant — and chat her up
as she’s drinking it.

A recent study showed that just by holding the high-temp liquid, she’ll implicitly assume you’re an emotionally warm person — someone very likable. Just don’t hand her an iced latte or you could trigger a frosty reception.

4. To have "the talk" without making your partner flip out ...
Take him to a restaurant that has soft feminine colors and furniture with few angular
lines. Researchers think that simply being in this kind of an environment can influence a
person to behave in a more feminine way in terms of communicating. That means that
he’ll be more likely to be open and disclose his true feelings to you.

5. To make your crush fall for you on a dinner date ...
Subtly touch the back of his hand as you’re reaching across the table for bread. It’s a
proven way to win someone’s affection: Libraries and car dealerships have higher
customer-satisfaction ratings when workers imperceptibly touch their clients. Touch
activates the human desire to bond.

6. To seem more alluring when you meet a guy ...
Talk about a beach vacation you took using sensual terms (e.g., “The sun felt so
fabulously warm against my skin”) to paint a mental picture about the climate. According
to psychologists, this seductive I-feel-like-I’m-there speech will make him associate your
personality with the lush sensations you’re describing.

7. To impress a guy’s parents the first time you meet them ...
Casually praise someone whom you’re certain his mom or dad holds in high esteem, such
as a political figure, author, or celebrity. Experts say that as you talk about their hero in a
positive light, your targets start to think about all the qualities they admire in that person.
And because they’re looking at you, they’ll subconsciously link you with that person’s
positive traits

8. To make a friend out of an acquaintance ...
Start mirroring her behavioral tics, like touching your hair when she touches hers. We
like to see ourselves in other people. Researchers at New York University found that
when you’re sitting across from someone who’s unconsciously shaking his foot, if you
start moving yours in a similar but unobtrusive way, then the person feels more positive
toward you.

9. Your slob roomie to clean up after herself more often ...
Spray a bit of liquid all-purpose cleaner in the air right before she enters the skanky spot
in question. A Dutch study recently proved that the faint smell of a cleaning product will
spur people to start picking up the area around them. You can also prime her by squirting
a little fluid in the bathroom sink before she goes in to use it.

Feel good chemicals and love

Arousal creates feel good chemicals

Deeply relaxed lovers create a resonance effect called entrainment that brings about deep healing for both partners.

 http://www.universal-tao.com/article/sexual_energy_elixir.html